Why I Love (and dislike) Valentine’s Day…


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One minute, I was walking around in a winter wonderland in my nearest Walmart and Target. Aisles and aisles of Christmas trees and ornaments, wrapping paper galore, and enjoying the bargains- because Target and Walmart had to MOVE this stuff out for the next big holiday. Not New Year’s Eve- but Valentine’s Day. It was December 29th and I could already see the beginnings of Valentine’s Day- true, true- it was a scant beginning- but it was there and was going to grow exponentially by the hour.Β  And my heart loved it and hated it.

First, let’s get a few things straight- this is not a post bashing stores about turning holidays into consumerism extravaganzas (they have to make money, y’know?) Nor is this a post about the evils of Valentine’s Day for a certain subsection of women ( y’know, the single ladies). Nor is it a cry to arms for women everywhere to feel empowered and say “Valentine’s Day- you kinda suck”. It’s just a girl, who struggles at time with her love (and yet dislike for the day). It’s honest. And maybe a bit snarky at times.

Why I love Valentine’s Day:

1. Pink and red and glitter make my heart sing. LOUDLY. I can’t help it- I love the colors, love the glitter, love the displays.

2. The cheese factor of the day- yep, I love all those sweet cards. I like sending out cards to friends. I like that big heart sharped box of chocolate that only has like 6 pieces of candy in it that you really like (but let’s face it, I like that Godiva chocolate a bit better!)

3. I like how I feel inspired to create something cute and creative- maybe a special card for a sweet friend or a bag of candy for some of the local kids I know. I like seeing people’s face light up when they get sweet goodies.

4. Balloons. Yep. I like Balloons.

5. The movies. There is always one movie that is released around (or on Valentine’s Day that I wantΒ to see- and one year it was Valentine’s Day- the movie (which yes, was lame at times. But I expected it. The cheese factor was what I needed)


Why I Dislike Valentine’s Day

1. I don’t like when people call it “Single Awareness Day” (I’m not saying I’ve never called it that or even engaged in some type of Valentine activity- some girls and I used to get dressed up and go out to dinner on Valentine’s Day and order decadent desserts and wine- and it was good. Until someone started in on the “single” aspect of the day- and I thought we were just celebrating a fun night out! Trust me, I get the whole “single on Valentine’s Day” blues- TRUST. But…. when did hanging out with your girlfriends become synonymous for “I’ll only do this till I’m not single- and instead of trying to have a good time- I’ll just focus on why I’m single?” Ain’t nobody got time for that.

2. Restaurants. I know, I know. People got to eat. But sometimes (prepare for snark) I just want to eat dinner and not be in the middle of a love-fest. And while usually I try to avoid the “fancier” restaurants like the plague on Valentine’s Day- sometimes a girl wants sushi. Or that decadent dessert. Or that really nice bottle of wine that only 1 restaurant serves in town.

3. How everyone talks about the “consumerism” of the day. YES. YES. I get it. There are some things about Valentine’s day that is just pure excess- the HUGE bears, the Vermont Teddy Bear Company with their bears and PJ’s (no, no, no!), the price mark-up on flowers- yes, yes, yes- it can be a pricey day. But, stores got to make money and you’ve got some choices (except, seriously, say no to the teddy bears and PJ’s- save that money for the decadent dessert or the pricey wine).

4. The 1 friend who tells you how perfect her Valentine’s Day was…. except for this 1 little thing- yes, yes- he sent flowers to work, took you out for an amazing dinner, bought you gifts from the places you want- except he didn’t get the (insert X). And now you think he’s terrible- really? (I’ll admit- # 4 is all snark. I can freely admit that.)


Valentine’s Day (at it’s core) is about love. And I totally love all the sweetness of the day- the colors, the glitter, the sweet little cards. And yes, sometimes, I want to vote Valentine’s Day off the island. Banish it far, far, far away from where I live. But, for the most part, that is just me being silly. Because truly Valentine’s Day is just another day.

So what are your thoughts on Valentine’s Day? Love it? Dislike it? Maybe even hate it? Tell me in the comments!


Oh and just in case you are curious- Valentine’s Day is on a Friday this year- and my plans- wine Moscato drinks (Chrissy from The Taylor House posted this recipe and it sounds delish!), movies ( can’t decide between old classics to me- The Cutting Edge, Steel Magnolias, and Dirty Dancing, or murder/mystery- Malice and Double Jeopardy, or really old classics- Rebecca or Broadway night- Chicago, Hairspray and Mamma Mia.), and take-out from somewhere. However, the next day is going to be my treat for Valentine’s Day- tickets to the MS Symphony to see “Oh What A Night- Music from the 60’s and 70’s” and sushi. Plus a decadent dessert.


Happy Reading and Bookishly Yours,

T @ Traveling With T


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20 thoughts on “Why I Love (and dislike) Valentine’s Day…

  1. melissa says:

    It depends on my relationship status. Very single..I hate the day. If there is a man in my life-i find it the most romantic day of the year.

    • lol- I think many people feel that way. I’ve had boyfriends on Valentine’s, but many more I have not. The last 2 or 3 years- I’ve been making a date for me- going to the symphony or a concert- just something I really enjoy.

  2. So your enjoyed your article! You make some very good points for the like side and the dislike side. I so agree with the restaurant point. For me I would rather go out for dinner with my hubby on another day when things are not so crazy busy. I have two daughters in their mid-twenties who are not in a relationship and it creates a lot of pressure for them not to be involved. I try to focus on the many different kinds of loves and likes we have in our lives with our children, friends, grandparents etc. I so have to watch the movie Valentine’s Day! ~Thea

    • Thank you! And thanks for stopping by to comment! I really try to stay far away from certain types of restaurants on Valentine’s day- partly because I don’t want to deal with crazy-busy, I want to enjoy my meal and my night out.
      Relationships- ugh sometimes they are the worst. It’s hard being single when it seems everyone is dating/married- but I just remind myself it’s harder to be married to the wrong person (or dating the wrong guy to just HAVE a boyfriend). I think so many girls don’t get that- and I hate that. This year, I have a niece to spoil- I bought her a Valentine’s Day card and I’m going to see her that weekend and get some sweet baby time in.
      Yes- if you like sweet/cheesy movies- Valentine’s Day is the movie for you!

  3. My vote is for The Cutting Edge! Claaaassic! I don’t mind valentines day though my celebrations are quite low key. I also send all my friends valentines too.

    • I LOVE The Cutting Edge! It’s such a good movie. I’ve been trying to do more low-key stuff for Valentine’s for myself- treating myself to a pedi or a massage. And then either before or after- going to the symphony, concert, a movie day- just something fun! One year I scrapbooked while enjoying a couple of glasses of wine- very enjoyable!

  4. Jennifer H says:

    I completely agree with you!! I send cards to my niece, nephew, and children of friends and try not to think about the depressing fact that I don’t have a man to share it with!

    • I love sending cards- I enjoy buying (and creating cute cards).
      For me, I’m not seeing anyone- and while sometimes it’s kind of lonely- I just try to stay busy- going and doing fun things!

  5. Hubby and I used to go all out on valentine’s day when we were dating. Even up to a couple of years ago. But now we don’t get out to celebrate because of the kids. It’s really just am ordinary day. We go all out on our anniversary instead not when the rest of the world is trying to get dinner reservations!

    I get you with the moving out of Christmas stuff at the store. I so was not ready for valentines things to adorn the aisles before we had even got to New Year. But come Feb 15th everything will be set up for Easter. It’s just the consumerist (I hate that word but it’s true) world we live in.

    • Aww! I LOVE that ya’ll go all out on the anniversary- psstt.. if you are wanting to have a quiet night in for Valentine’s Day, the link that I provided about the Moscato Drinks- well Chrissy also has tons of food recipes- just FYI!

      YES! Like I love, love, love the displays- but it seems like we are seeing them a bit earlier each year. BUT, while I love it- there are days that I don’t. Days when I feel crappy- am questioning things and all that red and pink- colors that normally make my heart sing- make me feel so lonely. And thus is the struggle I have with Valentine’s day- while I love it for all the good things, when it does a bad thing or makes me feel bad- I want to vote it so far off the island.

  6. Great post! Valentine’s Day kind of reminds me of the same thing that happens with New Year’s Eve… Sometimes it’s just better to go out on another evening! Like you, I do love the pink, red and creativity. This year, I think my 3-year-old and I will do some arts and crafts πŸ™‚

    • YES! Valentine’s Day is kind of similar to New Year’s Eve (except the stores make a much bigger deal of V-day!) Aww- you and the 3 year old doing arts and crafts! πŸ™‚ I can’t wait till my sweet niece is old enough for us to do stuff like that!

  7. Love your thoughts! I’d vote for a nice hot bubble bath with lots of bubbles, a glass of wine and candles…followed by takeout with more wine and being comfy on the sofa watching Steel Magnolias or something just as sappy! Single or not..that would be my top choice for Valentines night. πŸ™‚

  8. Books in the Burbs says:

    Great, well balanced post!! I know…I had pink, maybe red on my blog profile pic…and I do wear more pink than ever before. BUT, I really don’t like Valentine’s Day. I know…I should. I’m married to a great man, have 3 wonderful pups and 1 foster, 3 wonderful kids, and some great neighbors (who I call friends). BUT-I really don’t like balloons (they get in the way), I don’t like the stuffed animals (okay-it’s cute for like a minute, but then where do you put it???), the candy is nasty (I’m not a chocolate person and hate sweets)…yes, I’m human and yes, I am breathing πŸ˜‰ LOL! I just think it’s another reason to create more mess for me to clean up, more stress to think about, and too much gooey-ness, is just yuck! So, I do feel bad having kids and not being a fan of the holiday. I started buying them a little something and they jump for joy ( I guess I really don’t splurge on this holiday), and I buy a treat for my dogs. For hubby…we have decided to write a love note to one another for each holiday/anniversary…b/c I hate the stress of trying to find something. This year, my neighbor invited me to their church for dinner on V-Day, where the woman are served by the husbands. My husband will be at home, taking care of the kids. Yeah, I’m not romantic πŸ˜‰ LOL!

    • lol- I love this!
      Different people have different reactions to this “holiday” and you got to do what feels good to you πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ I love your plans for V-day! And love notes- so sweet!

  9. I’ve never felt too strongly about Valentines Day one way or the other, but I’m excited for it this year since I’m using it as an excuse to get the boy to take me to see The Tempest. I love Shakespeare πŸ™‚ Your plans sounds like a ton of fun! I hope you have a great time.

    • Oooh! Exciting! You and the boy have fun πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ I LOVE the symphony. I’ve been going to shows for a couple of years- and I really enjoy it. I do wish, sometimes, that someone I knew enjoyed going to these types of events- but anytime I mention the word “symphony” people get all “ugh”. They are going to be playing the Billboard Hits of the 60’s- it’s going to be so much fun!

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