One minute, I was walking around in a winter wonderland in my nearest Walmart and Target. Aisles and aisles of Christmas trees and ornaments, wrapping paper galore, and enjoying the bargains- because Target and Walmart had to MOVE this stuff out for the next big holiday. Not New Year’s Eve- but Valentine’s Day. It was December 29th and I could already see the beginnings of Valentine’s Day- true, true- it was a scant beginning- but it was there and was going to grow exponentially by the hour. And my heart loved it and hated it.
First, let’s get a few things straight- this is not a post bashing stores about turning holidays into consumerism extravaganzas (they have to make money, y’know?) Nor is this a post about the evils of Valentine’s Day for a certain subsection of women ( y’know, the single ladies). Nor is it a cry to arms for women everywhere to feel empowered and say “Valentine’s Day- you kinda suck”. It’s just a girl, who struggles at time with her love (and yet dislike for the day). It’s honest. And maybe a bit snarky at times.
Why I love Valentine’s Day:
1. Pink and red and glitter make my heart sing. LOUDLY. I can’t help it- I love the colors, love the glitter, love the displays.
2. The cheese factor of the day- yep, I love all those sweet cards. I like sending out cards to friends. I like that big heart sharped box of chocolate that only has like 6 pieces of candy in it that you really like (but let’s face it, I like that Godiva chocolate a bit better!)
3. I like how I feel inspired to create something cute and creative- maybe a special card for a sweet friend or a bag of candy for some of the local kids I know. I like seeing people’s face light up when they get sweet goodies.
4. Balloons. Yep. I like Balloons.
5. The movies. There is always one movie that is released around (or on Valentine’s Day that I want to see- and one year it was Valentine’s Day- the movie (which yes, was lame at times. But I expected it. The cheese factor was what I needed)
Why I Dislike Valentine’s Day
1. I don’t like when people call it “Single Awareness Day” (I’m not saying I’ve never called it that or even engaged in some type of Valentine activity- some girls and I used to get dressed up and go out to dinner on Valentine’s Day and order decadent desserts and wine- and it was good. Until someone started in on the “single” aspect of the day- and I thought we were just celebrating a fun night out! Trust me, I get the whole “single on Valentine’s Day” blues- TRUST. But…. when did hanging out with your girlfriends become synonymous for “I’ll only do this till I’m not single- and instead of trying to have a good time- I’ll just focus on why I’m single?” Ain’t nobody got time for that.
2. Restaurants. I know, I know. People got to eat. But sometimes (prepare for snark) I just want to eat dinner and not be in the middle of a love-fest. And while usually I try to avoid the “fancier” restaurants like the plague on Valentine’s Day- sometimes a girl wants sushi. Or that decadent dessert. Or that really nice bottle of wine that only 1 restaurant serves in town.
3. How everyone talks about the “consumerism” of the day. YES. YES. I get it. There are some things about Valentine’s day that is just pure excess- the HUGE bears, the Vermont Teddy Bear Company with their bears and PJ’s (no, no, no!), the price mark-up on flowers- yes, yes, yes- it can be a pricey day. But, stores got to make money and you’ve got some choices (except, seriously, say no to the teddy bears and PJ’s- save that money for the decadent dessert or the pricey wine).
4. The 1 friend who tells you how perfect her Valentine’s Day was…. except for this 1 little thing- yes, yes- he sent flowers to work, took you out for an amazing dinner, bought you gifts from the places you want- except he didn’t get the (insert X). And now you think he’s terrible- really? (I’ll admit- # 4 is all snark. I can freely admit that.)
Valentine’s Day (at it’s core) is about love. And I totally love all the sweetness of the day- the colors, the glitter, the sweet little cards. And yes, sometimes, I want to vote Valentine’s Day off the island. Banish it far, far, far away from where I live. But, for the most part, that is just me being silly. Because truly Valentine’s Day is just another day.
So what are your thoughts on Valentine’s Day? Love it? Dislike it? Maybe even hate it? Tell me in the comments!
Oh and just in case you are curious- Valentine’s Day is on a Friday this year- and my plans- wine Moscato drinks (Chrissy from The Taylor House posted this recipe and it sounds delish!), movies ( can’t decide between old classics to me- The Cutting Edge, Steel Magnolias, and Dirty Dancing, or murder/mystery- Malice and Double Jeopardy, or really old classics- Rebecca or Broadway night- Chicago, Hairspray and Mamma Mia.), and take-out from somewhere. However, the next day is going to be my treat for Valentine’s Day- tickets to the MS Symphony to see “Oh What A Night- Music from the 60’s and 70’s” and sushi. Plus a decadent dessert.
Happy Reading and Bookishly Yours,
T @ Traveling With T